I guess what I'm trying to explain with my story is that, those things you don't like about how your look right now, they either come from one of two places.
1. Internal source
2. External source
If they are external in origin, meaning you feel them because others are making you feel that way, then a mission statement will help you sort that out.
If they are coming from inside you, again, a mission statement is going to help you understand why you feel the way that you do, and what to do next.
A concrete (albeit evolving) mission statement helps us to know what we want in our lives.
And what we don't.
Then we become aware of what we need to do to make our lives look more like who we feel we are on the inside.
You see it becomes more of a wholistic approach rather than just the pressure to change an aesthetic attribute about ourselves.
This also facilitates the creation of behavior-based goals instead of results-based goals.
So no longer do we only focus on thoughts like,
"I should lose weight".
Instead our mission statements includes some core values like:
Feeling proud, comfortable, and capable in my body.
Nourishing my and strengthening my body with food and movement...so I feel good.
Then when we have to make decisions about what to eat, how and when to move, and when to rest you can use this core value to determine what your next move is.
"Does eating this quart of ice cream align with my core values? Will it help me to feel proud, comfortable, and capable in my body?"
We have an answer!
-"Yes, because I'm proud of the fact that I can feel comfortable indulging in ice cream sometimes because I also eat nutritious food and care for my body with movement."
-"No, eating ice cream right now will not make me feel proud and comfortable tomorrow, I'm going make a protein shake and take a walk instead."
The beauty of knowing what you are about and what you aren't about is that it begins to make it easier for you to mute those nagging negative thoughts.
I use the core values of my personal mission statement to make decisions all the time about what I do with my body, how I spend my time, how I raise my kids, how I love my husband.
So when I'm deciding about something that isn't necessarily "good" or "bad" all I need to ask is,
"Does this align with who you want to be?"
And then for the most part, I know what to do.